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What If It Really Is Me?
I refused my husband for several years. The frequency was far below what he wanted, I rarely participated, and I looked at sex as just one more thing on my to-do list. And I also rejected any physical...
View ArticleLearning to Receive
I’ve come a long way in my journey to a better version of my wifely self. I’ve changed a lot of habits that damaged my relationship with my husband. He and I are both happier now, and our marriage is...
View ArticleSister Traveler
Am I an impostor? Here I am writing a blog about creating a strong Christian marriage by changing sexual attitudes and behaviors. Let me tell you a secret: I’m not there yet. There is no doubt that my...
View ArticleWe Still Stumble
My on-going journey to better wifehood is definitely more of an overgrown trail through the woods than a nice paved path along the beach. Sometimes we get into a slump. With various life issues going...
View ArticleTouchstone: Sex Is Fun, Part 1
I used to lie awake at night, after sending my husband back downstairs to drown his rejection in whisky or after having given in to another bout of passive sex, wondering what had happened. Sex used to...
View ArticleSarah’s Story
During my gatekeeping years, I often thought of Sarah. Yes, that Sarah. Mrs. Abraham. Sarai. There were far too many nights when I found myself so turned off by the thought of sex that I found myself...
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5 Things I’ve Learned
When I began my journey of sexual transformation, it didn’t even occur to me that I was beginning a journey. I just figured it was about having sex more often and changing my husband’s attitude and...
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Measuring Growth
If you’re a parent, you’re familiar with those growth charts that doctors use to compare your child’s height and weight to other children’s. They’ll say things like, “Your son is at the 85th...
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Do I Have To?
This post grows out of something I addressed at the end of a recent post. If your husband really wants to do a sexual activity that you dislike, do you have to do it? During a recent sexual encounter,...
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Is Fantasy Okay in a Christian Marriage?
When I was a child, not only did I talk, think, and reason like a child, I also played like a child. I played for hours. I had days-long Barbie adventures on my front porch. The other neighborhood...
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